Finding Mr/Ms Right

2011-01-03T13:52:00.004+08:00

A close friend recently gave me some advice, which I found very enlightening. She shared that she attended something (hehe.. forgot the details :p) and learnt to use this template when deciding on if someone is the right one for you.
She told me that I should identify 5 traits that I need in my person, and another 5 traits that I cannot live with. Also, I'll need to note that in that person I'm evaluating, the 5 traits I can't live with are more important to be missing, rather than the person needing to have the 5 traits I'd like him/her to have. So upon thinking about it, I can't fill it all up yet @_@:

5 Traits which I want the person to have:

1) My expectation of Physically Beauty
My expectation of my partner is to roughly meet the stereotyped "hot" body for their respective gender. I want a guy who's nicely meaty and girl with the right curves at the right place I guess. For a guy, I realised I'm attracted to nicely large muscular arms. The deal maker is kinda having abs (♥.♥) though not the sunken in type; I want them 6-pacs puffing out (Skinny guy abs are not my type~). For a girl, umm I find having that a nice chest-waist-hip ratio important. Think coke bottle (♥.♥). For the face, presentable is good enough really but good looks are well appreciated too.

2) Charisma & Aura (Don't know how to explain it too well)
I do not really know how to explain it. I'm not really able to qualify how strong the presence will/should be and I don't think someone can have that presence active 24-7 either but I do know the feeling when you look at that person; this person isn't someone you would overlook.

3) Expressive of their Love
Ohh this is kinda important to me. I need to be reassured that I'm the one that he/she loves. Call me insecure but yea.. I appreciate hugs, kisses (not lusty kisses with tongue), and "hovering"s :p Just being close-by can make my day really. Also, on my rare days that I get disappointed and say that Iwant to be alone, I do not really want to be left alone.. (I'm admitting and broadcasting it now #_# so remember that if you're the one)

4) Dilligence and Discipline
Your better half makes up for what you lack in right? I belive that while he/she doesn't need to be extremely capable at everything, he/she needs to be the type that can push through any obstacle through sheer determination and discipline (something I very much lack @_@). e.g. study till he/she gets good grades. Perhaps some of that will rub off to me too :p

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5 Traits which the person cannot have:

1) Embarrassingly unable to present him/herself respectably
After being with the 1st mistake of my romantic life, I realised that I need someone personably normal. I'm defining normal as being presentable enough to the world without catching attention like a spotted pink elephant in a white room. i.e. no overtly flamboyant personality nor dressing style, no awkward red indian-ish noises while tickling me @_@, etc. These stuff make me cringe and want to frantically find a paperbag to hide my face (especially if I'm out with the person). Sorry, just gotta be that way..

2) Capable of promiscuity
This is very important.The one I'm with CANNOT cheat on me. I want to find someone who innately will only want to do it with his/her partner; fidelity is very important to me. No one else should even be an option. Sex is very sacred to me, I feel. If I let someone have my body, I would rather only have that person forever. I just want someone who feels the same way. How I can identify someone with this trait is still unclear to me though.. Best thing I thought of is to announce it before we get involved..

3) Unable to Communicate with me properly
I personally do not like it when a partner does that (Personally do not understand how my brother-in-law can keep up with my sister's personality). With that said, while I do not blow up at people nor give the cold shoulder, I do get disappointed at people and go emo on them. I know it's not a nice thing to do. I do not want something like that from my future partner too.. By the way, someone who is like a sandbag that can absorb all my emotional attacks is not needed. Appreciated, but not required. I just need someone who I can communicate with me propoerly to prevent these unhappy stuff from happening.

4) Able to put me on low priority
I cannot allow it @_@. If you're mine, you need to make ample time for me. I'll try to be understanding enough, but I need whoever it may be to give me attention duely. I can't be constantly be put after his/her friends. I don't mind being with his/her as much as needed though. A clingy/possessive partner is fine with me because I rather that than the opposite.

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I'd like to know what your priorities are..

2011-01-03T02:17:00.001+08:00

Hi Nik,

So, right now, I know just this:

I want a Peaceful & Blissful life.

Quite sure about this. Well, I see this as my most basic expectation of this life. I may most likely add to this list of what I want this live to be for me in future. Once I am stable and feel I can accomplish more perhaps? However for now, I just want these two aspects fulfilled.

This idea came up from two long-standing thoughts:

1) I don't need to be Famous or Rich.
I don't need those material things. Just enough to get by comfortably is good enough for me. Mainly because I do not plan to work to the bone to get them :p

2) I want to find the Right One and Live Happily with him/her.
Someone that can and will make me happy, I guess. Been holding out for this person but haven't been able to find him/her yet...

Starting out Anew

2011-01-03T01:13:00.002+08:00

Ahh.. It's me again after about.. 4 years of absence? I think at this time, I'll dedicate a blog to finding out about myself. I want to be able to know what I'm like.. Sound a little stupid but I do not really know "Me". i want to find out who this "Me" is; what makes him tick, what he hates, why he does things the way he does them.

If you do chance upon this blog, you're more than welcomed to peek. I guess it doesn't hurt if anyone reads this anyway. Shall we begin?

Rhythm of the MidnightSun

Finding Mr/Ms Right

I'd like to know what your priorities are..

Starting out Anew